Almost two years ago I landed the job of my dreams. It wasn’t a writing gig but I was stoked about my new job. I was a Senior Manager’s assistant for Northern California’s only Electric and Gas Company. I was on top of the world. The more I dedicated myself to the job and the company the more I desired to further on my own path. I started to note all of the conversations I had with co-workers and how unhappy they were. I remember one telling me: “I was living it up at your age. I was working 24/7; my husband took care of me and the kids so I had no worries. He’d pay the bills, bring me home the rest of his checks, and I’d still have my own money to blow. I never considered saving any of it. It was all about looking glamorous. I was in the worse position ever when the bread winner of my house hold suddenly died. I was so dependent on him that I had no idea how my children and I would survive. Now, I am 55 years old, I can retire at 73, and my husbands medical bills are over a million dollars.” Talk about a wake up call.
The reality of her situation had hit home. Was I planning for the future or was I using my current situation as a means to get by? The truth of the matter was I was following in the footsteps of my coworker and many women just like her. Working day in and day out, slaving for a company and forgetting to pursue what made me happy. I was working amongst a bunch of women who had no choice but to work at this point in their lives. They were twice my age and these women had somewhat become envious. It was almost as if they hated to love me. I was ridiculed and talked about behind my back but it was all love and smiles to my face. I woke up one day and realized I don’t want that to be me. I do not want to hate the girl 20-30 years younger than me, because I didn’t follow my dreams at her age when I had the chance. So I conjured up a plan. My plan was to complete my book and leave the company. The reality of what I needed to do became abundantly clear. I was slowly but surely unhappy in my work environment. The closer I got to the completion of my book the closer I got to shutting that door and opening another.
On August 30th, 2013 I took a leap of faith and sought out to follow my dreams. Am I encouraging you all to give up your lively hood to make things happen? No I am not! I am simply telling you, time does NOT wait. You can continue to sell yourself short and tell yourself: “I’ll do this much today, I’ll get this done tomorrow, I’ll finish it later.” The truth of the matter is with that attitude you’ll be chasing a dream for the rest of your life. Life is about advancement and in order to advance sacrifices have to be made. You have to buckle down and stop believing things will come to you and start going to get them. I called Sprint this afternoon (as I have to do it seems like every week) and the woman I spoke with got excited when I told her that I was a writer. This woman was a writer herself. Where did our lives differ? She was a little older and she was a mother. We spoke briefly but she told me during our conversation that she’d been writing for years and had yet to be published. At 24 I chose to self publish; I did not wait for someone to tell me I was great I did it on my own. I encouraged her to go on the same path that I took. I heard a bit of questioning and discouragement in her voice and I told her my every step and I continually encouraged this woman I had never met to chase her dreams. How can you be in the same field as someone and not give them friendly advice or push them to take risk? I know that for me it is amazing to wake up daily and promote a project I put my heart and soul into. You never know the feeling of seeing your face plastered on major websites for sale unless you attempt to do it. It feels AMAZING! I would want those same feelings to occur for everyone I cross paths with.
Sometimes we doubt ourselves, sometimes we are discouraged, and more often than not we are all afraid to fail. Our biggest set backs in life is not trying and not being about to trust our own judgment. Don’t wait for someone to open a door for you that you have the means to open yourself. Don’t wait for someone to tell you that you’re talented and you have potential, show people that you are. Your dreams develop into reality when you stop dreaming and take responsibility and make things happen. I think what inspired me to most is being surrounded by a group of entrepreneurs.
Entrepreneurship is a risk, a leap of faith, a sacrifice, and you only succeed by surrounding yourself with greatness. Before you set out on your pursuit of happiness always remember:
Those who fail to plan, plan to fail. You have to know what you want, when you want it, and what it’s going to take to get there. Dreams are more so calculated risk; make sure you thoroughly think things through before you start your journey. The bigger the risk the greater the reward.
Do NOT second guess your ability to be great:
I can remember being nervous about anyone reading the book. I had anxiety and I couldn’t keep calm. I doubted myself and my ability to draw in a crowd. How was I going to succeed in anything and have others believing in me when I didn’t believe in myself? You have to know what you’re capable of. You have to be 100% certain that you can do whatever it is your heart is set on as long as it’s genuine.
We have all made the mistake of becoming a certain person or acting a certain way once we’ve accomplished a few things in life. I remember when I was between the ages of 18-20; I was at the most arrogant and ignorant stage of my life. I had not one humble bone in my body and that ended up costing me everything that I valued most. When you value your accomplishments/achievements more than life itself you’re creating a platform for failure. When you give yourself more credit without acknowledging who’s really responsible for your success (God) you’re setting yourself up to be reminded. You can only carry on with a non-humble attitude for so long before God pulls the rug from up under you just to remind you who’s in charge. Remember that we are just accessories to God grace and his blessings. Be humble and let your humbleness reflect in everything that you do
Give support if you’re expecting to receive it:
Don’t be the person who wants and wants, takes and takes, without giving. Support those around you whether you know them or not. Supporting someone else can inspire many great things within yourself if you open your mind up. Don’t allow your fear of being over shadowed by someone else, hate, envy, or pure jealousy, to block your blessings. Be supportive even if you don’t receive the support in return. In the long run it’s really about helping you not them.
Trust in your faith:
This whole journey I’ve be nervous, I’ve been concerned, and I’ve been worried. What am I praying for if I am going to worry? What’s the use of being halfway faithful? You have to trust your faith and trust that God will continue to provide by any means. Situations may seem uncertain and may even be a little bit cloudy. We are all promised a purpose and destination; we are not promised that everything will be smooth sailing. Struggle will teach you survival skills, how to prioritize, and to do what’s most important. As long as you remain faithful and never doubt your journey everything will work itself out.
Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.
- Life Is A Traffic Jam: http://whoisamberjanae.com/2013/08/07/life-is-a-traffic-jam/
- Where I Want To Be: http://whoisamberjanae.com/2013/06/19/wednesday-wisdom/
- A Whole New World: http://whoisamberjanae.com/2013/04/23/a-whole-new-world/