“Don’t be trapped by dogma- which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown out your inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Last week I went to have drinks with a long time friend of mine. We talked about all of the things that we ever dreamed of doing and all of the projects we are currently working on. We had an in-depth conversations about how others tend to bring you down and their negativity in turn weakens your self confidence. After we met I couldn’t help but think about all of the times I allowed someone to kill my hopes and dreams. I don’t think we realize the importance of silencing the negative people mentally and not absorbing their feelings and mistaking them for our own. Continuing to go after your dreams despite what others have to say shows just how much you’re dedicated to your future and how much you believe in yourself. Growing up I was forced to let reality overshadow my dreams. I later learned that reality is often times WRONG and my dreams are VERY real. I was always told what I should be doing and what I should be interested in. Truth was all I ever wanted to do was write. All I’ve ever wanted was for my words to inspire others to become a better version of who they are. I’d be lying if I said that I never let someone’s opinion stop me from believing in my dreams. I stopped writing for many years because I believed when people said that no one would ever want to read anything I had to say. I believed when others told me my words just weren’t captivating enough. I believed when they said I could never write a book and become an author. I believed when I was told I am not as good as all of the other writers and I should stick to what I know. For years I was living with the results of other people’s thinking. Because they didn’t believe in me I stopped believing in myself and my dreams. While reality seems ideal, don’t let the present overshadow the goals you’ve always dreamed of accomplishing.
Daily reminders help me to stay focused and rid myself of negative thoughts. Some days you are your biggest and only supporter. Try surrounding yourself with things that remind you of why you set out to accomplish your dreams in the first place. Photographs, post-it notes, biblical scriptures, certain objects, whatever it takes. Do NOT lose sight of your dreams. Remove yourself from negative situations. I know what you’re thinking. How can I remove myself from people that are family, co-workers, or life long friends? It takes a lot of power! Often times all it takes is to simply change YOUR thought process. You must start controlling what you choose to believe, what you accept from others, and what you internalize. Believing the wrong things, accepting negativity, internalizing all of it not only harms you emotionally, it hinders your ability to chase your dreams and what you believe in. Let go of fear. You have to know when it’s time to step out on faith and believe in yourself. I remember not doing certain things because I didn’t have the support of the people around me. I feared that without the support of those close to me my dreams would never come to fruition. The moment I let that fear go and stopped relying on the support of others is when I became more passionate about my dreams.
Find the courage to follow YOUR heart. Have the courage to listen to the things that YOUR intuition is telling you. Don’t be so caught up on other people’s opinions and ways of thinking that you lose sight of your own. Your heart and your intuition will never fail you. They already know where you are headed they just need you to follow. Trust that reality is not always right but your DREAMS will always and forever be REAL. Everything else is secondary to your dreams.
Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.