Could chivalry be dead? There are times when I feel very much like a hypocrite. I tell myself I won’t entertain anything or anyone that doesn’t honor my wants and needs and then the moment I get it I can’t fully accept it. Allow me to elaborate. It once irritated the hell out of me to be in a relationship and the person not picking up the phone. There are times it pays to just call to say hello opposed to a text. Now I am completely annoyed when people call me LOL.
I feel more comfortable texting for whatever annoying reason. I once complained about having to drive to certain places to meet someone opposed to them driving to pick me up. To my surprise I was asked out on a date and he told me that he was old-fashioned and preferred to pick me up. I have yet to send him my address LOL. You see what I am saying? I am a walking contradiction. I was pondering on my contradictory behavior and thought “What if the old fashion way of dating never went out of style?” What if our generation still wholeheartedly believed in courting and genuinely caring to get to know someone for who they truly are? Here a few old-fashioned dating habits that we not only need to come back in style, but us women need to learn to accept.
Disconnecting From The World:
Before we had Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat all we had was a phone call to let us know they were leaving and what time we’d need to be ready. When we were in the company of someone special we valued that time. Now days there’s the constant checking of phones and the desire to take pictures more than simply being present in the moment. Learn to be Present.
Picking Up The Phone:
We are so accustomed to this new age way of communication that we forget we can dial a number. If my man ever tweeted me to tell me to be ready I will kill him then dump him LOL. Although I have issues with just watching my phone ring when people call, I feel like if it was a common thing these days most women wouldn’t have anxiety about it. PICK UP THE PHONE!!!
By that I mean asking a woman out on a date, not just “Sup, when can I see you?” It’s important to care about general interest, drive to her home to pick her up so she doesn’t have to drive and meet you or even worse pick you up, UGH. I believe that where we go wrong is our fear of rejection so we have a tendency to withhold a lot. A woman likes assertiveness, we appreciate straightforwardness. We really want to know a man is interested, even if it means him stepping out of his comfort zone.
Sex Talk Too Soon:
Don’t think because we had a few conversations that we are going to start discussing when we are going to get it in because the answer is probably never. There is nothing more unattractive than a man assuming sex comes automatically and you can have it when you want. Grow up!
I remember a time when I’d only receive flowers or gifts when I was pissed off and they were trying to win me over again. Women appreciate it more when we get sweet gifts just because. Find out what her favorite things are and go the extra mile to see that she has them. Flowers, cards, candy, surprise outings and if you want to get fancy, surprise vacations. (Hint, hint lol)
Dating is no walk in the park. There’s all types of frogs that we have to kiss to meet our Prince. While it takes two to tango, I feel as if a man sets the tone from day one then things will run smoothly. Don’t approach a woman without being clear on your intentions. Be sure you’re doing all of the above and more. Never, NEVER stop courting her. Ladies, it is our job to be receptive of all of the above. It is our responsibility to not give a man a hard time if he’s trying to prove himself and win you over. Not all men are the same, but keep in mind that not every man who approaches you deserves your time when they request it.
Happy Dating Y’all
Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.