Self-Love Sunday: Comparison Is Self-Sabotage

As we progress through life we are bound to find things about ourselves that we are not so comfortable with. There are those of us who work endlessly to change the things they aren’t fond of, then there are those us who let what they can’t change become them. We struggle so much with how we feel about us that other people and their lives become more appeasing. It’s the act of comparison when we’re too busy living in a world of self-sabotage. When we learn to elevate our opinion of ourselves we tend to be happier. We are less inclined to spend our days comparing our lives when we’ve learn to happy with who we are and where we are. Inner stability is the key to everything in life. You ever accept anything because it sounded or looked good? No matter how bad it may have been for you, how terrible it made you feel you dealt with it because as some point it made you feel good.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha

Mark Twain once said that comparison is the death of joy. He couldn’t have been more right. When you walk through life comparing yourself to others and putting more time into what they’re doing and how it differs from the things you’re doing, you’re robbing yourself of true happiness. We all have taken the time out to compare our lives to the people around us at some point. You have to learn that no one in this world can do a better job at being who you are than you. So comparing yourself to others it is useless. We all have our own unique qualities and gifts that we were created with. Where you shine may not be the same as where the next person shines and vice versa. When you’re looking at the way others are succeeding and wondering why you are where you are and why you have not made it to their level you form a bad habit of judging yourself and competing in areas of your life that you shouldn’t.

“A Man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain

Don’t let your insecurities of your past shape your future. Be confident in all areas of your life. You have to know that no matter what you are amazing. Being broken may have caused me to question a lot of things in the past, but never the beautiful person God created me as. I knew that I was flawed, but flaws are to be expected. I knew that my love and compassion for others was a rarity and that for where it would go unappreciated someone else would over appreciate. Other people can’t see in you what you don’t see yourself, because it is difficult for you to project the things that you don’t feel you possess.

Luckily for us all, life isn’t’ a race. It’s beneficial to you when you stay steady on your own path and not try to outdo or out work others out of intimidation. You pick apart at all of the great things about yourself thinking you can be better and you should have more just based off you looking at another person’s life. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, I’ve learned that I will never be able to have or obtain what was meant for someone else. You cannot claim territory on a blessing that was not meant for you. You hinder your own blessings being envious of someone else’s journey and not focusing on your own. Frankly, I don’t want what someone else has or has had. Nor do I find myself envious of other people’s blessings. I do not know their struggle or the sacrifices they’ve endured.

In the past comparison was never a winning thing for me. I always lost or came up short thinking about what I could or couldn’t be doing just by looking around at others. It’s okay to look at other’s lives and be inspired or find encouragement. It’s never okay to see someone else and put yourself down or try to compete with them or sabotage you in an effort to compare.  Run your own race and run it steady! Let God be your leader and don’t focus so much on your surroundings. Comparison kills your joy, strength, and any confidence that you have about yourself. Instead of sitting around and observing other people’s lives and critiquing yourself based on others, find the strength to go out and do what you have to do to bring blessings and accomplishments in your own life. You should never want to blindly take on someone else’s blessings/life just to be where they are. You have absolutely no idea just how much they had to go through and sacrifice to get there. Feel comfortable walking miles every day in my own shoes because there you know exactly what to expect.

“Remind yourself, nobody’s built like you, you design yourself.” – Jay Z

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