2016 is all of a few days away. I am extremely excited to see what God has in store for the coming year. I was brushing my teeth the other morning and it dawned on me, in order for me to properly embrace all that God has planned for the coming year I have to rid myself of the things that may have prevented me from doing so in 2015. My life is all about personal development and actively practicing self-care. Our daily lives are a direct reflection of what we allow into our personal space. If our personal spaces are overflowing with bad habits, it is very likely that our lives will reflect one big hot assed mess. I am vowing to leave the hot mess behind come 2016. I see so much growth in myself in this last year alone. I know that if I want to see continuous growth than there are some things that I need to rid myself of. Here is a list of 16 things that I will not be taking with me into 2016.
I have vowed that any levels of doubt I will rid myself of. I have no room for doubts. Doubts create insecurities and insecurities keep you stagnant.
A dear friend of mine recently told me, “Fear is the opposite of love. Fear goes against everything love stands for.” – KB
3. Lack of Self-Confidence
The more I invest in loving myself, the less I question my capabilities and all of the woman God created me to be. I refuse to move into the New Year doubting the woman that I am.
I am the Queen of being passive. I just let things slide because I like to avoid confrontation. I’ve learned that sometimes the avoidance of confrontation is us choosing to silence ourselves. Death to passiveness and silencing myself in 2016.
5. Negative Thinking
Every day I am praying for the restoration of my mind. I refuse to move forward with the same negative thought process. Although I’ve outgrown negative thinking a lot, I still have more and more work to do daily.
6. Unnecessary Spending
Linda Listen, sometimes I forget that I need to focus on not spending recklessly. I have calmed down a lot, but sometimes it’s hard to resist that pair of shoes or handbag. I am teaching myself to focus on investing in my career and brand before investing things that are replaceable or insignificant. 2016 is all about being frugal, real, real frugal.
7. Not Celebrating Life
I have a friend who inspires me every day to live my life to the fullest. She invests in countless of vacations throughout the year. I mean literally, she’s started booking her 2016 trips last month. All of my friends have been so influential in my life in so many ways. One of the main ways they’ve all influenced me is to step out of my shell and celebrate my life. Sometimes we have to learn to stop and smell the roses. As time goes on we learn that it doesn’t take anything from us to stop for a moment and celebrate our accomplishments. I am going to focus more on celebrating my life in 2016.
8. Fear of Rejection
There were moments where I didn’t go after the things I really felt I should have out of fear of rejection. The thought of being rejected had me missing out on so many opportunities in 2015. I have to learn to not think about the possibility of being rejected for the opportunities I really want in the New Year.
9. Fear of Failure
I have always felt that if you’re afraid to fail you’re afraid to take risk. I don’t want to be that woman who desires to be successful, but on the flip side be afraid to fail while on the road to success. With success comes failures along the way we have to be willing to embrace the good with the bad.
10. Constant Complaining
Cause ain’t nobody got time for that!!! 2016 is not the year of
NOT magnifying the things we dislike.
11. People Pleasing
I just don’t really have the desire to try and please anyone any longer. I am committing to doing all of what satisfies my soul and makes me truly happy in 2016. I will dead the idea of trying to please others before self.
12. Lack of Patience
I am a constant work in progress. One of the main things I focus on is how patient I am. I do not want to attempt to speed the process on anything in my life. I have to learn to master patience in every area of my life. Trust that God is always on time. It may not be when we want, but he is always on time.
13. Toxic Connections
Over the past 2-3 years I’ve done a really good job at weeding any toxic relationships out of my life. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a few stragglers around. I am learning the power of forgiveness, but understanding that it doesn’t mean granting people access back into my life just because I’ve chosen to forgive them. Staying all the way back from toxic people and things in 2016.
14. Trust Myself More
I honestly don’t give myself enough credit. When I am right, I am right and I need to put a little bit more trust in myself in the coming year. I know that I am capable of anything I put my mind to. I have to trust all of my ideas and plans a bit more this coming year.
15. Running From Love
Honey, when it hits, it hits and there is nothing you can do about it. 2016 I vow to run toward true love, not from it.
16. Eating Unhealthy
I can’t make no promises. Check back mid-spring after my birthday LOL. *Stuffs Face with a Milky Way*
Seriously, each year I strive to be the best version of myself. If we’re living refusing to give up the negative things about us we are stunting our own growth. I want to challenge you all to create a list of 16 things or more to rid your life of before the new year rolls around. If you have that list, please do share. Remember, our motto is self-care and self-development, we can’t achieve either of the two without honesty and accountability.
Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.