Opportunities, A List of Things That May Be Keeping You From Them

“Life begins when you step out of your comfort zone.”

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Everyday I am looking at my calendar thinking where the hell did time go? I set a lot goals for myself to achieve in the year of 2016 and I am just getting started. Let’s be honest, a lot can happen in a year. I’d be lying if I said a lot hasn’t happened already. I’ve noticed that every time I am presented with a new opportunity or venture I get nervous. A little bit of fear runs through me and I catch myself contemplating if I have the necessary skills to make it happen.

The old saying “life begins when you step out of you comfort zone” sounds so cliché, but it’s the honest truth. Nothing really comes to those of us who refuse to explore. Nothing comes to those of us who refuse to take on new risk and challenges. If you want it bad enough you suck up the anxiety, push out the fear and get to work. One of my goals in 2016 was to quit talking myself out of opportunities. When they knock take them. Yes, new jobs, career changes and fresh opportunities can be scary. But one thing I have learned, if it doesn’t scare me half to death it isn’t worth it. Here’s a list of things that may be holding you back from new opportunities.

1. Asking for Other People’s Permission:

You don’t need permission from anybody to flourish in life. I once had a bad habit of running my dreams and visions by others to see what they thought. 9 chances out of 10 people will either give you advice that best suites them or tell you something that talks you out of the opportunity all together. Stop asking for permission to be great.

Nothing really comes to those of us who refuse to explore. Nothing comes to those of us who refuse to take on new risk and challenges.”

2. Waiting Until You’re An Expert to Take On Something New:

I knew nothing about publishing a book I just knew how to write. I knew nothing about starting a blog, but I knew how to write. There are a lot of us who tell ourselves I need to learn X, Y, Z before I commit to starting a new venture, but in reality our obsession with being perfect can hold us back or prevent us from ever getting started at all. There isn’t one thing in life that’ll be 100% perfect. I find that I learn better by hands on experience opposed to doing non-stop research before I begin. Just go for it!

3. Not Being Clear About Goals:

If you lack an understanding of what you and why you want it, you lack a lot. When we aren’t clear on our career goals and expectations life gets blurry. It’s hard for us to attract certain opportunities let along accept them if we’re unclear of what we want. Be clear about your goals.

4. Questioning Yourself:

Just say no. The moment you doubt yourself is the moment you allow the enemy of fear to overtake your life. If you don’t believe in you other people wont either. Yes, it’s extremely hard to be confident 24/7, but in order to be successful we have to learn that we are nothing without belief in who we are and what we’re capable of.

5. Focusing too Much on The Status of Personal Relationships:

Guilty!!! Slowly raises hand.

It’s true. Relationships are important to us, but at times we can make them far too important. You’re constantly thinking about how your career is affecting others or how taking an opportunity will affect a certain relationship. We have to learn to consider how opportunities that we’re presented with are beneficial to us in the long run, not how they benefit those we surround ourselves with. When we are on the road to achieve great things relationships and social life take a backseat. It isn’t a bad thing, it’s natural. If the people in your life can’t support this then that’s their loss. We have to learn to consider what works best for us more than we consider what works best for the people in our lives.

Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.  

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12 thoughts on “Opportunities, A List of Things That May Be Keeping You From Them

  1. i love love loved the post Amber Janae so true especially the part about relationships, i always try to work things around it and try to fit in everything and everyone sometimes i think that if i knew then what i know now maybe i would be in a different place in my life right now, but at the same time God knows whats best
    have a great week

    1. Hi Kerona,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. Don’t worry about what you didn’t know then. The great thing is you know it now which makes your progression forward so much easier. I hope your week has been amazing thus far. And God ALWAYS knows best.

  2. Hey Amber!
    I really like this piece. It’s very simple and all very very true. ALL of these things have held me back, not so much the last point, but definitely in other areas.

    1. Hey, Love. Thank you so much for reading and this all have been struggle areas for a while for me. I think it’s great how we highlight our own past struggles and we all can resonate with each other. So glad you enjoyed this post. Wishing you an amazing week! xoxo

      1. Hi Love,

        Just checked out your blog. Super cute and clean layout. I love it! Looking forward to more post. If we aren’t connected on Twitter make sure you reach out and connect with me on there. xoxo

      2. ayeeee, thanks! we already follow each other on twitter (@CallMeKes) we should talk some time

  3. My biggest problem, for a long time, was that I was constantly seeking permission from others. I had to stop and realize my goals are for me, I didn’t (and still don’t) need anyone’s permission to fulfill my dreams.

    1. One of my biggest problems in the past as well, Natalya. Life is about you and your journey. When we start to give other people the permission to tell us how we should or should not live we end up unsatisfied. So glad you’ve found the courage to live for YOU. Sending you love and blessings xo!

  4. Amber this post is confirmation for me. What spoke to me most was stop seeking permission/validation from others. It took me so long to realize that my dream/vision is for me not them. People will put you in a box honey and have you believing you ain’t going nowhere. And questioning myself is probably my biggest challenge! I’m looking into an opportunity now that I know would be a game changer for me. The title and responsibilities have me in fear to take that step. But I’m going to leap cuz I know I can do it.

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