5 Signs You’re Merely Existing and Not Truly Living

image.jpegI sat at brunch this past weekend really basking in life and its blessings. I was chatting with my close friend Adereni and I really had to thank her for being that friend who always ensures that her friends are enjoying life. You ever feel like life is just too damn serious? Like you could be doing just a little bit more to open up, get out and enjoy your life to the fullest? I went through a serious heartbreak a little over two years ago. I remember when it first happened I shut the world out. I was invisible to not only the outside world, but to myself. I stopped living. I stopped knowing who I was. And although I was in a very transitional phase in life, you should never let life’s obstacles shape or change who you are. So I took my power back by reshaping how I lived my every day life. It was all about living life to the fullest. I started by taking inventory of my life daily, I often stop to think “Are you living this life or are you just existing?” It’s important for me that I am not letting these days pass me by. As I grow into the woman I desire to be, I would rather grow older with memories of the things I shouldn’t have done opposed to what I didn’t attempt to even try. Here are 5 signs that you’re existing in this world and not living your life to the fullest.


You Wake Up and You’re Not Excited Everyday:

We all have terrible days, it’s a given. I think the only time my day goes downhill is in traffic on my commute to work or dealing with a coworker when I get to the office. But, even in those cases I have found healthy ways to not let life change how I feel internally. Besides the above, I genuinely wake up every day and I am excited about life. It’s just something about the feeling of being blessed to wake up, breathing and able. You’re not fully living if you’re not excited to be living every day.

You’re Staying Glued to Your Comfort Zone:

I was once that woman you couldn’t force into anything other than what I was accustomed to. Trying new things was so foreign to me, in all honesty is scared me. In order to truly live and not just exist, you have to grow out of being comfortable. You have to release your fear of broadening your horizons. To live means to grow beyond what you are used to. If you’re not creating new experiences you’re not growing and if you’re not growing you’re not truly living.

You’re Not Open to Making New Friends and/or Connections:

Sometimes it’s the people you’re afraid of opening up to that have the power to change your life in more positive ways than one. I’ve discovered in the last two years that life is all about timing. It’s really all in being in the right place at the right time. I’ve made amazing connections over the years, amazing friends who’ve turned into my sisters and brothers. Had I stayed closed off to the idea that at my age new bonds can’t be created I don’t know where I’d be. We have to dead that “no new friends mindset.” It is very often the new people in our life that open us up to grand possibilities.

You’re Too Glued to Your Phone:

The best days/nights are the ones you don’t have time to tweet or snap chat about. I love when I get home and realize 22 hours have gone by since my last tweet and I’ve genuinely reveled in the presence of the amazing people around me. Nothing compares to going out, enjoying life and not living to document everything to prove you have a life. Don’t get me wrong, I will get a group photo and a selfie because the way my outfits are set up I have to lol. But, it just means so much more when you’re actually living in the moments and not just pretending to.

You’re Living a Life You Don’t Want to Be Living:

You have to be excited about your life to desire to want to exhaust it to its full possibilities. Are you stuck in a job you hate, but can’t seem to find the courage to start seeking a better opportunity? Are you tired of the same routine, but haven’t been working toward creating a new refreshing one? Are just tired of feeling like everyone around you, but you is enjoying life? One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned in the last few years is that everything you need is within you. What you are internally you attract. So if you’re praying for something that has yet to come your way it means that you aren’t as prepared to receive it as you think you are. That goes for new people and new things. The essentials you need to live an amazing life can never and will never be bought. What God blesses us with, the blessings in our lives that don’t decrease in value you can’t be buy. Expand your mind, drop your comfort zones and live. Death to just existing, get out in the world and LIVE!

Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.


10 thoughts on “5 Signs You’re Merely Existing and Not Truly Living

  1. You’re speaking the truth in this post. I felt like this in NY and thats part of the reason why I left and moved to Miami. I wasn’t living a life I wanted, but now I am. I go out and meet people. Sit in coffee shops, go to yoga, and put myself into uncomfortable situation that turn out to not be uncomfortable at all!

    1. I’m so happy that you chose to make a change. A big part of self-care is living a fulfilled life that’s satisfies you. I’ll have to come and visit you in Miami. But, I am very pleased you’ve made life adjustments. It will only continue to get better for you. xo! ❤️

  2. Great read as usual! Thank you for sharing. I am in a season of transition and rebirth, which is really challenging and frightening. I’ll admit that I’m guilty of doing everything you listed. Thankfully, God is working on me to restore my joy, peace, passions, and goals. This post is EXACTLY what I needed.

    1. Chasity, thank you so much for reading. I’m praying that God continues to walk you through this transition and guide you in the right direction. We have all been here, I’m rooting for you and trust God through this process.

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