Because we’re all too old to be depriving ourselves the lives we so desperately deserve to live. – Amber Janae
As you dig beyond the hollow shell of the physical existence , you begin to rediscover more and more things about your true self. It also becomes more and more apparent that as you evolve higher, the detachment from old ways, habits and people that no longer serves you becomes easier. How are you choosing to live? What are you choosing to hold on to? In this week’s podcast I touched on emotional imbalances and the importance of freeing yourself from things that don’t support your highest good. You can listen to the full episode here. Life is all about choices. Your choices are ultimately what shapes your reality. It is our everyday choices that pretty much determine the fate of our present days and the days to follow. Are you choosing resistance? What is it that you’re choosing to hold onto or refusing to embrace that is resulting in you putting a strain on you living your best life? Here’s a list of things to let go of now.
Settling For Less Than What You Deserve
So many times we go without receiving what it best for us because we can’t seem to let go of mediocre. We settle because we don’t know any better. We settle because it’s easy. We settle because we don’t believe that we’re deserving of anything better than what we have now. I have news honey, there is always better ahead. Just say no to settling.
There’s not really anything worse than a non-believer. How does anyone expect to propel to new dimensions lacking the faith that anything you put your mind to is possible? When you elevate your thoughts you elevate your life. The easiest way to attract better in life is to believe that it is possible.
“What’s a God to a non-believer who don’t believe in anything?” – Frank Ocean
Maintaining Unhealthy Relationships
Well because nothing spells stagnant like chasing behind the wrong individuals. Expecting what’s wrong to get better when their only signs of it getting worse is setting yourself up for failure. Too many times we assume the definition of loyalty is tolerance when it ain’t. If they aren’t contributing to your life by being a positive addition they need not be around. If the relationship doesn’t support your growth, let it go. This is romantic relationships and friendships included. Rid your life of the people who weigh you down.
Doing Things To Appear That You’re Better Off Than You Really Are
While every detail of our lives isn’t reserved for the public to have a front row seat to, nobody likes a phony either. It is okay to not be okay. There’s a fine line between being private and just being plain deceiving. The more we refuse to acknowledge what our life really is, the more we remain in a place of false happiness and denial.
Living In Regret
It happened, you went through it, you learned from it (or maybe not) but, it’s over. Let it go! There is no need to dwell on the past. There is no reason to live in regret, forgive yourself and move on. I am my happiest when I am living regretting the choices of my past, said no one ever! Be at peace with yourself and the world around you.
Dating Without A Purpose
Because ain’t nobody got time for that. If you’re in a relationship that is ongoing and there are no plans for the future, why are you in it exactly? None of us should be dating or giving ourselves away without a higher goal in mind. Our bodies are our temples and should be treated as such. If there isn’t a long term end goal it isn’t for you, let it go!
Denying Love Because of Who or What Hurt You In The Past
Open yourself up to the abundance of what love has to offer. Do not live withdrawn from the world because of what went wrong in the past. We’ve all been here. And while it is very difficult to tell the intentions of every person we encounter, we cannot run from love or shut ourselves off because we fear the outcome of new connections.
Trying To Keep Up With The Joneses
There is no reason to attempt to live beyond your means because you want to fit in. There is no reason to be so desperate to gain material possessions that you’ll do any and everything for them. Do not be fooled, it is really okay to live a normal life. The quickest way to ruin your own life is trying desperately to keep up with others. Be happy with what you have.
- Being Spiritually Unfulfilled
We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. We are only responsible for our own spiritual growth. I am at peace knowing that there is nothing that cannot be obtained in this life including evolving spiritually. Many of us are unfulfilled and out of alignment with our true selves which is why we lack so much guidance and understanding. We can live feeding the desires of our flesh or we can live led by our spirit. I can’t tell you which to choose, but I can tell you being spiritually fulfilled is far more satisfying and rewarding.
Tap Dancing on Other People’s Misery:
There are some of us who find joy in other people’s failures. There are some of us who are rooting for someone’s relationship to end or to see them fail, hoping for their dreams do not come to pass. If you’re one of those people who find joy in other people’s misery you need to re-evaluate life. I am a firm believer that one should never find joy in a pain that they do not know. God always has a funny way of reminding us that what is someone else’s pain today can very well become yours tomorrow.
Living In Comparison:
It’s nothing to it but to live your life according to your own journey. We all have a purpose, but we won’t all prosper at the same pace. We aren’t all afforded the same opportunities, but there is enough light for us all to shine. For as long as you’re living comparing your level of success to someone else’s, you’ll forever be behind.
“No such thing as a life that’s better than yours.” – J Cole
Not Stopping to Enjoy Life:
Reaching for success or becoming your best self doesn’t mean never having fun. There is always room to break free and enjoy the life that you’re blessed with. It’s all about finding a happy medium. Life is nothing if it is imbalanced. You have to take time to enjoy your life and the people who are in it while you can. We only have one life to live, make sure you aren’t letting it pass you by.
Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.
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