Here’s How Your Day Job is Helping and Why You Shouldn’t Be Bummed You Have One

photo-1423666639041-f56000c27a9aI started climbing the corporate ladder at the tender age of 16. I had my first real job working in the business office for a Ford dealership. I worked there part-time until I graduated high school. By the time I had turned 18 I was working at Ford on the weekends still, I had a full-time job at a beverage distribution company AND a full course load in college. I was serious and about my business, but after some time, I stopped being motivated to work my 9-5. By the time I was 20 my salary was neck and neck with most adults, but it still did not matter to me. I knew that I had a passion for other things and my 9-5’s no longer sufficed. I had this idea that I shouldn’t be working for someone else. I had big plans and dreams, and I hadn’t worked at all to put myself in the position that I dreamed of.

I would cry and complain a lot about how I was unhappy. I tried so hard to convince myself that I should be working in my field of choice and not for someone else. I contemplated quitting a lot of jobs without a real plan. Luckily I never made that terrible mistake. It’s one thing to consider quitting your job because there are other things you dream to pursue and it’s a whole other ball game to check out and completely abandon the process of real life. It wasn’t until complaining to my step dad that I got a real reality check. He told me:

Don’t be ungrateful. We all have dreams and goals but do not be blind to what you’re being taught while working for others. It takes many jobs where you’ll be unhappy to get to where you actually want to be. Make sure you’re focused on what you’re gaining from the opportunities you’re presented with instead of complaining about why you aren’t where you want to be, YET.

I took to heart what he had said, and it actually made sense. From that day forward I learned to embrace my small beginnings. It did not mean that where I started is where I’d finish. I also needed to focus on what I was gaining instead of complaining so much. Now I am working for a company that I absolutely love, and it does not hold me back from pursuing my dreams on the side. 4 reasons why having a 9-5 as a creative is beneficial for you?

You Learn Skills You Probably Would Never Be Able to Teach You

There are just far too many skills I’ve picked up from my day-to-day job that I’d never be able to learn on my own. I know that when it comes time to run my own business I can operate a multi-line phone system, I have accounting skills, and I know the basics of office management and so much more. Sometimes picking up skills elsewhere can be far more beneficial to you than dealing with the stress of having to learn them on your own.


Networking and Connections

 I slept on the fact that I meet some amazing people who not only offer me incredible opportunities, but they link me with other amazing individuals who provide me the same. I was amazed at how genuinely interested most were when they learned I am an author and blogger. Sharing your dreams with others and building those connections is more beneficial than you could imagine. You never know what opportunities could arise. Some of my greatest opportunities have come from me chatting it up with others at work and them saying, “I know someone you should meet.” Find ways to actually use your job as a way to network, market yourself and make connections.

Be sure that what you’re carrying along are useful skills, a strong work ethic and healthy mindset that is beneficial to what you seek to achieve in the future and not harmful to you.

You Learn How To Deal With All Types of People

 I’ve dealt with the good, the bad and the uglier working a 9-5. In most of my jobs, I am the young woman who’s ambitious outside of her everyday job. I’ve worked with older women who’ve hated me for no apparent reason. And I’ve worked with people who’ve taken me under their wings and taught me everything that I needed to know. In the corporate world sometimes you’ll encounter not such generous individuals. It’s been my greatest asset learning how to deal with these types in a professional way opposed to dealing with them how I would on the street. You’ll deal with bosses who could give two shits about you. And then you’ll work for a boss who wants nothing more to see you excel in life and succeed. Learning how to handle me in these situations has been entirely beneficial to me. Not only have I learned what type of boss I never want to be, but I’ve also discovered to be the model employee even if it means working with petty people with shitty attitudes. When you learn how to handle individuals in the workplace, you carry that skill set outside of the workplace, and it’s forever embedded in you.

You Become More Driven

The more I work my day job, the more driven I become to step out on my own. Believe it or not, it’s really helped develop my work ethic and how to be attentive in the areas that need attention. A day job is career advancement and self-development. I go hard in Monday-Friday, but because I am so persistent in doing a great job at the workplace it gives me the drive to come home and knock out a full week of the blog post and a chapter for my next book. My drive at work fuels my drive at home. My desire to be amazing at work contributes to me be being a kick-ass author and blogger.

Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.


16 thoughts on “Here’s How Your Day Job is Helping and Why You Shouldn’t Be Bummed You Have One

  1. I’ve graduated from college in 2009 in Marketing. I taught math for five years after that. At the time I was miserable, but that job taught me patience and how to work with difficult people.

    I’m out of education but still not in my dream job. However, this job allows me to strengthen my negotiation skills and lots of time to network online.

    This post was very inspirational and comforting. I’m going to read a few more of your posts with this tag.

  2. I’ve graduated from college in 2009 in Marketing. I taught math for five years after that. At the time I was miserable, but that job taught me patience and how to work with difficult people.

    I’m out of education but still not in my dream job. However, this job allows me to strengthen my negotiation skills and lots of time to network online.

    This post was very inspirational and comforting. I’m going to read a few more of your posts with this tag.

    1. Yes. Ive worked in the admin field for so many years. I am just now in a roll that I love and Im not administrative support, however my previous skills have helped so much. Thank you for reading, I hope my other post inspire you as well. 🙂

  3. This is such a great post. I find myself complaining about the things I dislike about my 9-to-5 and how, although I’m less than three years into working in the corporate world, I ALREADY know I don’t want to work for someone else forever. But I sometimes forget to acknowledge all the skills I’m gaining and lessons I’m learning. Thanks for the reminder, Amber. 🙂


  4. Love this! I’ve spent one too many years complaining about the seemingly menial jobs that I’ve had, but when I look back, I’ve learned important skills from even the worst of them. I look forward to reading more of your posts!

    1. Thank you! 🙂 But, yes. Often times we let our jobs define us ignoring the fact that we are just there to work. Never overlook the bigger picture, what you’re gaining and where you are headed. Thank you for reading and I look forward to sharing more post with you. xoxo

  5. Thank you for sharing! I really, really needed this today. I’m trying to have a positive outlook in regards to my job because I want out so badly and into a job that’s related to my creative field and passion. You have some great points for the stage I’m in now.

    Most Important: DRIVE. I want to move on so badly from my job, that it fuels me to work on my writing and blogging skills everyday. I was on vacation for a few weeks and barely moved my butt or wrote anything; but my 1st day back in the office, I came home and put in work! Knowing I don’t want to be there this time next year, makes me work harder than I would otherwise.

    Great post!

    1. You’re so very welcome. Thank you for reading. My best advice is when you love to appreciate where you are you’ll elevate to a higher level. Trust me, I would much rather be on a book tour, writing for major magazines, but theres more for me to learn. I truly believe that God is just preparing you. Its our job to be students during his tests. Embrace where you are, itll only get better. 🙂

  6. This post is nothing but the truth! First off, hats off to you for kicking off your hustling mindset so young. I’ve only been living the office life for about 2.5 years now (full time for 1) but I’m already dreaming of the days I’ll be able to live freely, build my own dreams instead of someone else’s. I feel sooo restricted/trapped sometimes having to work on a set schedule, limit my days off. But at the same time, Lord knows I’d be in a terrible position without having had this job. I’m so thankful and I constantly remind myself of all of the above points!


    1. Hi Kristen,

      I am so glad that you can relate to this post. I have to remind myself often to trust that there will be more to come in the near future and my present life is just a stepping stone to the next level. I am subscribed to your blog and I read it often, I trust that you will be very successful in all that you do. I am so inspired by your move to LA. I am not too far from you in San Francisco and I am awaiting the day I get to pack up and move. But, I am glad that you were reminded how much of a blessing it is to have a place of employment. Just continue to live in these moments and not despise your small beginnings. Rooting for you always!


      Amber Janae

  7. I think it’s awesome that you found positives in your situation and was able to turn it around.

    When talking to people about this very topic, I’ve found that contentment comes after coming to the realization of these 4 reasons. You even said that after your attitude changed you were happier and you discussed entrepreneurship being “later down the line”. Your on the side activities can reach a cap if you still have the obligation of a 9-5. Then at that point, are you going to keep applying these reasons to get back to contentment or are you going to fearlessly Persue your dreams full time? The one thing that unhappiness at the 9-5 can do is provide a lot of motivation to put your dreams into over drive and your savings into over drive to provide a financial cushion while persuing your entrepreneurial endeavors.

    One thing I’ve learned and heard a lot from successful entrepreneurs is that if you are working more for a dream that someone else built than you are for your own, you are doing yourself a disservice.

    I’ve had a few jobs in my field and I’ve most definitely learned a lot from them. I even like the one I have now , however I will never be truly happy until I wake up everyday and build MY empire and invest those 40 hrs a week in my vision. So I won’t allow myself to get too content because the longer I let myself love working for another, I will potentially postpone my goal of working for myself.

    Great post & great perspective. I think it opens up an awesome dialogue 🙂


    1. I started my blog in 2012. My first steps were setting up my blog and later deciding what topics I wanted to focus on. Check out the blog and type in “blogging” in the search bar. Lots of post I’ve written in the past that’ll help you

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