Your Past Does Not Define Your Present and It Is Not Your Identity

FullSizeRender (71)“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

When a lot of people truly get to know me and all that I’ve been through they’re often surprised. I’ve been through alot in my life. But not only do I not look like what I’ve been through, I do not live my life as someone who’s been through hell and back. Through committed growth I’ve learned to not let my past define who I am or define my present reality. A lot of us live our lives attaching the fate of our todays to what we’ve been through in the past. We allow our past to define who we are. We allow our past to determine our present and future. You can shape shift our present reality by holding onto what’s come and gone. A lot of us are victims of abuse. A lot of us are victims of heartbreak and relationships gone wrong. We’re victims of self-neglect and abusing ourselves. There are a lot of us who still have a lot of forgiving to do. Whether that forgiveness be with ourselves or someone else, forgiveness is essential to growing beyond what we’ve been through.

You are only slave to the things you’ve been through only if you allow yourself to be. Set yourself free. Choose freedom. The whole point of moving forward in life is to see the beauty of growth. We liberate ourselves when we’re able to look back on a lot of what we’ve been through in the past and see the grace of second chances. It’s an opportunity for growth and change when reflecting on our past situations seeing the lessons it all served. Now is the time to let go and release the story you’ve been allowing to define you. What story have you been believing about yourself? Let it go. Let go of the false narratives that you’ve been telling you about you and your life.

When we can accept the truth of our past by realizing it is a portion of our story, but not the whole truth of who you are, you open yourself up to internal healing and growth. Think about it, it’s so much easier to shape shift our current reality, opposed to living in the present trying to change what has come and gone. It’s come and gone. It is highly impossible to change what has gone and gone. Stop living attached to your past experiences. Those past experiences may have played a major role in who you are but they don’t define you. Your past does not define your present and surely is not your identity.

Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed. 

 

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4 thoughts on “Your Past Does Not Define Your Present and It Is Not Your Identity

  1. Beautiful share! I have a terrible relationship with my family and have been through some tough times myself but I haven’t allowed it to make me bitter or make my heart cold. I have instead placed that energy into self care and practicing Mindfulness, Yoga & Meditation. My struggles encouraged me to start blogging and get into photography. I refuse to let others define who I am.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing. I truly believe that our relationships with our family really sets the tone for how we progress in the future. Sometimes that feeling of lack of love and support can really hinder us. I am proud of you that you didn’t let it break you and most importantly that inspired you to invest your time into something you enjoy…xo

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