Definition of Detachment: The act of detaching: separation. Indifference to worldly concerns: aloofness, freedom from bias or prejudice.
To have a deep tie, a deep rooted love for everyone and everything, but be attached to absolutely nothing is my idea of an abundant life. I am living this life. But I remember the days when I was not. At some point spirit called for me to slow down, to stop and smell the roses. I had begun to reassess everything in my present surroundings. Am I doing this with love? Is this in support of my highest good? If I choose to move forward with this am I truly honoring myself? These were all questions that plagued me on a daily. For a long time, I have dedicated my life to the building of my brand. I’ve sacrificed much of myself and my life to build something that I was deeply passionate about and truly believed in. Over time though, I watched the significance in what I had built and why I built it begin to fade away. I had become afraid to slow down. I was afraid to stop, afraid that if I slowed down, I would lose my fire. Afraid that people would forget who I was. I had become attached to the validation of what I had built, so much so, that what I had built had begun to lose its true power.
For the last few months, I’ve been doing some shape shifting regarding my life. I’ve been reevaluating and reassessing everything I’ve put my hands on and heart into for the last ten years. What did it all mean to me? And if I let it all go today would it mean any less? Did everything truly have the power to diminish if I chose to let it all go? I didn’t know, but I was willing to find out. I asked myself if internet crashed today would you still feel like life was beautiful, would life still have meaning? I couldn’t answer the question clearly and that is when I knew it was time for a shift. Something had ignited within in me. Something was urging me to seek the freedom of detachment from all that I had invested in. If I separated from it and it crumbled to pieces, it was certainly never meant to be, in the first place, now was it?
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached.”
― Simone Weil
To cling to something out of fear of losing it is giving our power away. It’s a fear of not having a sense of identity without the things that we have created or grown to love. But love is not attachment. Love is not defined by how long we can cling to something, holding on to dear life, suffocating it. Afraid that once you let go, so does it. True passion for what you do and love daily is embracing uncertainty. Deep within the uncertainty rest the freedom from past conditioning and worn out constructs. Capitalistic beliefs have taught us to identify with a certain idea of success that is borderline fantasy. For so long I had been identifying with what I thought success looked and felt like. For so long I was afraid to step in the unknown out of fear of losing what I had built. I feared the impact I had made on other people’s lives would be forgotten. I had to realize that I was not living in truth. I was not creating with purpose and intention. I was not working my ass off with purpose; I was doing it out of fear of losing it all. I had finally accepted I was creating to feel validation. The purpose and passion had long ago faded, I was in search of a feeling that I would never receive because what I was chasing was unrealistic and unreachable.
“Remain in the world, act in the world, do whatsoever is needful, and yet remain transcendental, aloof, detached, a lotus flower in the pond.”
It was my choice to let go that gave me a better grip on my life. It was my commitment to detach myself that allowed me the freedom to live my life not confined by the prison I had created in my mind. A lot of people had begun to question why I had been so absent from my site; it was because I was busy creating magic internally. I have been busy reconnecting with myself. I have been busy realizing the true meaning of success and abundance which is love. I have been focused on reimaging, envisioning what life looks and feels like to me. It is no long the need to have or feel anything all the time. It is just simply a strong desire just to be. I am concentrated on being, living purely. And because of this choice, life has felt so much more rewarding. It has felt so much more freeing. I have returned home to myself. I create for the love of it, not for the need to feel anything in return. I feel a rise of passion burning deeply in my chest every day. I feel love on a whole new level. I feel a deep connection to everything I do and have done and don’t need a damn thing in return to feel what I feel for them. I just feel. I just love. I am connected without being connected and it feels damn good.
I want to challenge you all to reassess what your views of success are. Reimagine what the “perfect life” looks like to you. I promise you, the moment I let go and stepped into my truth was the moment that God and the Universe started to show me what it meant to live and be successful. You are you regardless of what you have and possess. You are you regardless of a title, brand or business. You are you regardless your relationship status or the people you’re surrounded by. If you cannot find love and contentment within yourself minus all of these things, you will continue to work your ass off blindly. You will continue to miss the fact that the journey is the real destination. You will continue to chase a thrill. You will continue to obtain, and the moment you find victory in obtaining these things, you’ll never know satisfaction. Detach, separate, reassess, reevaluate and return with a better understanding of what it means to live life. Asè!
Be Inspired. Be Encouraged. Be Blessed.
Photo Cred: Aurora James, Founder of Brother Vellies